We do it weekly

A couple months ago Zach and I looked at each other through our tired, worn out eyes and said "we HAVE to have a consistent date night." With a newborn, a 2 year old, work, life, and everything else, where on earth does spending time investing in US come in? I just wanted to say "hey life and kids, back off will you? The two of us were a thing first. Why you always trying to take top spot!?" 

SO, we have been doing a weekly date night. Every Friday night it is us, no kids, good food, good drinks, and a good time.  It is SO darn refreshing. Sometimes it is what keeps me sane and going by Wednesday or Thursday afternoon when I am spent and am yearning for some time as a wife instead of a mom.  I look forward to Friday after work like nobody's business. I love spending time with my man. I love remembering who I fell in love with. 

We chose Friday nights for a couple of reasons. Our Mon - Fri "work week" is packed and busy most of the time. Sometimes we hardly see each other! Or at least for any kind of quality time that is. Date night on Friday allows us to connect and converse and spend time together before the weekend hits.  Then we can enter our family weekend time together a little more unified, a little more filled up, a little less irritable or grouchy. When I say less irritable or grouchy, I'm talking about Zach obviously ;)

I laughed so hard I cried on this one. Excuse the bad lighting. 

This was my first margarita since being pregnant with Eason. Mama waited patiently for that!

Sometimes we have free babysitting from family and sometimes we have to budget a babysitter. Sometimes we sacrifice other things so we make sure we can spend the money on dinner together that week. Whatever the financial cost, it is the best thing we've ever done.

Sometimes we ask the deep questions like "how am I doing as your spouse" "what can I do better" "what am I doing really well at" "Am I speaking your love language enough" "what can we do better as a family/couple/parents." And other times we stay light and shallow. Lord knows we need the latter, too. Whatever it is we do or talk about, the most important thing is just being committed to each other and making US a priority.