Wednesday, June 19, 2013

The Thing Nobody Told Me About Having a Baby

You get a WHOLE LOT of stories and advice and warnings from people when you have a baby....."oh get ready for this" and "oh my, when we had our 1st baby...yada yada yada." But one thing I have yet to hear from anyone that would've actually been helpful is how much having a baby changes the dynamic of your marriage. It is one of the hardest changes so far. 

The lack of quality time we get to spend together is shocking and terrible.  This may be a little more dramatically hard for Zach and I because we went from one extreme to the other.  We literally have worked together since the day we met! We met in Anthem and were with each other everyday that year, our 2nd year of Anthem we interned together in the same dept of the church. We went from that to working together @ the same company, driving the 60 miles back and forth together everyday, working in the same department, taking our lunches and breaks together.  It was a blast, we seriously loved it! People would always ask us, don't you get tired of each other, you spend every waking minute together? No way buddy, it was the best! And its what I miss the most.

The real adjustments come when instead of cuddling on the couch together, there's a baby to entertain or tend to. Or instead of a nice, uninterrupted conversation over dinner, there's one of us trying to get Copelynn to stay in her bouncer or swing so we can simply finish eating. Or at bedtime, instead of laying in bed together, chatting about the day or whatever we please, theres a baby to feed or rock to sleep and we have to go to sleep separately. 

Adjustments, adjustment, adjustments.  

And that's what life is all about. Recognizing the beauties of a new season, but also being okay with acknowledging the hard parts & growing pains too, right? Right. 

I reminded of Ecclesiastes 3:1 "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven." AKA, life is full of seasons, they come and go, they don't last forever. This too shall pass. 

On a brighter note, we found a bottle that Copelynn will drink from!! So speaking of quality time; date night here we come! 

1 comment:

Katie Cook said...

Thanks for sharing this Aimee! So real and honest, I love it!! Praying for you:) love Katie